When I was younger I didn’t understand why people didn’t like me or avoided me without even trying to know me. I always thought that people in general are always mean for no reason.
Now that I’m in my forties i finally found the answer to this puzzle: i have what is commonly known as a resting bitch face. My own face works against me and i didn’t know it.
I consider myself a good person, try to be polite, easy going, friendly (at least on my mind), try to follow rules, and overall a good citizen for society.
I know that not everybody will like me the way I am, but it seems that in my case its just harder than normal to connect and approach people. At this point in my life I have stopped trying so hard and just avoid meeting new people all together, not because I don’t want to, but because I am tired of the rejection.
I have encountered situations where i’m told to smile more, that i look tired, or asked if i’m mad or if there’s something wrong, but I swear I’m just minding my own business, maybe thinking of butterflies, my garden, or I’m just having a good day. But my face seems to be expressing something completely different, like a plot to kill whoever looks at me.
Sometimes I feel mad when I realize someone treats me poorly just for my looks, sometimes It just makes me sad because my own face isolates me when i try to be friendly and approach people.
Believe it or not I do smile, and laugh, just not all the time. Just to think of my kids makes me smile, to reach a goal, or go to the beach makes the trick.
I would love to have a very smiley face like some girls do, but God didn’t bless me with one, so I have to settle with the curse of the involuntary mad expression of my face.
I have tried to smile more, but it feels forced, fake, i’m not being true to myself just to please others, and that doesn’t feel right either. And it looks creepy too. And on top of everything I’m a quiet person by nature, which makes it even harder to socialize.
The only thing I can do is to let people know that whenever you encounter someone that looks a certain way, don’t judge them without trying to know them first.
I know I’m not alone in this, would greatly appreciate any feedback.